"Sex Begins in the Kitchen"

About 18 years ago, my wife read this book called "Sex Begins in the Kitchen" by Kevin Lehman. Tina recently found a new copy of the book, and now has a small group focused around it.

At first to me it looked a little on the edgy side. I thought, "If it begins in the kitchen, where does it end up?" But it was recommended by a Pastor friend, so i figure I'd check it out. I soon found out it was about spouses learning to fill each other up by understanding their love languages and using those languages in everyday interactions. The idea in my mind that the book would be about having adventurous sex was replaced with something completely different - love.

I think we often times look at Jesus and eternity in a similar way, thinking that Eternal Life begins when we die. Many of my friends, both in and outside the church world, think that it is all about getting to a mansion in heaven. So our faith becomes all about getting to a destination instead of learning a new love language here on earth. Jesus becomes a password instead of the way of life, or a tool used to fix our screw-ups instead of a relationship based on true love. He's a ladder we climb or the stairs we climb so we can get to our destination, rather than a journey.

My wife doesn't want to be treated as an object of my need to be physically fulfilled. But when i choose to listen, feel, notice, touch, give and speak words of Love "in the kitchen," the physical intimacy comes as a result. Of course, we want to spend eternity with Jesus, just like Paul felt in Philippians 1:23-24, but it is more important now that we are intimate with Christ in our "kitchen" here on earth. Today, no matter what we encounter, may we see Christ everywhere we go, and create a Christlike environment wherever we go.

Pastor Steve